Hi, my lovely sissy girls! Today, we are going to discuss coming out to your partner. Well, duh, but something tells me you might need proper guidance here. So strap in, strap-on, mind hooked, clitty locked, eyes wide, boipussy tight and let’s go!
I know all of you girls enjoy watching sissy porn, dressing up, daydreaming about big cocks, and all things girly on the daily. But for some of you babes, whether you want to hide it or not, your feminine side is a secret only you know about. As of right now, at least.
Maybe you’ve been wondering about what it would be like if someone else knew that under those baggy jeans of yours, you’ve actually got on a pair of the softest, sexiest, lacy panties a girl could ever dream of, paired with a tiny pink chastity cage which is holding your lady-parts in place nice and tight. Or maybe you’ve been finding yourself lost in a daydream about your own partner asking you to lock up your private area, taking away the key, and making you do things for her you’ve only seen being done on websites you couldn’t tell her about, just not yet.
If that sounds like something you’ve ever pondered about then I think you girlie could be in need of a little guidance.
Firstly, I want you sweeties to think about whether you’d actually even want anyone else to know about your girly self. Or, is this a little naughty secret you’d like to have all to yourself instead?
Would you consider coming out to your partner a necessity, or rather an evitable factor that wouldn’t affect the relationship between you two, if kept as a secret? And if so, could you then imagine yourself living a double life as, for example, a family man and a great husband by day, and a kinky cock hungry slut by night? You have to carefully assess your true desires, darling, and be completely honest with yourself about whether your sweet gentle sissy brain could handle such pressure.
Keep those two images of your sexy self in mind after you’ve figured out exactly, how important coming out to your spouse would be. Now, ask yourself, if this would be the best time to lift up the skirt. Even if you’re certain your wife would be supportive of you and accepting of your sexuality, try to take a moment to consider the ongoing events in her life. This secret side of you will most likely come as a surprise to her no matter the circumstance, nor how sure you are of her alliance.
Try putting yourself in her shoes for a minute, I know you’ve probably tried those on already but do that in more of a metaphorical sense for a change here. Think about whether she’s in the right place to receive this kind of information along with a completely new perspective of who you really are, as every change takes time to adjust. If you conclude that this is generally more of a stressful time for her then maybe, you should consider keeping your girly parts hidden in your panties for a little while longer…
Another thing a girl like you should definitely take into consideration when thinking about revealing your true self is the amount of trust and connection you and the person you’re coming out to have. In the matter of embracing your feminine side, it all comes down to how vulnerable it might make you feel.
Try to imagine yourself as if you were naked with all of your beautiful curves and edges showing, seizing every inch of your whole delicate being in front of a person dearest to you. What kind of emotions does that image of yourself stir? Maybe you’re feeling a glimpse of freedom and liberty at last, or maybe you’re sensing something resembling guilt and shame instead.
No matter the sensations you observe now, to share such a deep and vital part of yourself there needs to be a safe environment for it. With trust and safety present and blooming in your relationship, coming out could even deepen the connection between the two of you and bring you even closer to each other. Imagine the impact it might have on both of you sharing in your feminization process together! A pretty weighty argument for taking the extra effort to make sure you coming out will elevate the relationship instead of serving as a breaking point.
The same goes for values, desires, and even kinks your partner might have. Would you consider her as a rather curious and open-minded person, especially regarding social norms, sexuality, exploring fantasies, and gender? Or more of an old-fangled traditionalist type of person? Of course, depending on how long you two have been together, you might not be aware of all of her interests and preferences. But you’ll never know until you ask, she might even have some secrets of her own!
Try to think back at the relationship between you and your partner so far. Maybe you’ll come to realize that there might have been hints pointing to the fact that she could even be excited to find out about your sissy side. Something you might not have realized in the spur of the moment, like if she’s ever suggested using a dildo together or her dominance in bed that has always felt natural in a way. Even better if you know she wouldn’t consider herself completely heterosexual but rather bi, bi-curious, or even pansexual.
Speaking of benefitting from the disclosure of your sissy side, although there is no way to be 100% sure of your partner’s reaction, you could try weighing up the probable pros and cons of coming out to her. Some aspects of the relationship you have right now are just bound to change as a result of you revealing your sissy secrets but that may even be for the better…
As aforementioned, with you opening up the door to your closet full of high heels you could also be opening up a door for her to come forward with her own fantasies that she could’ve been keeping to herself. And who knows, those two might end up overlapping. Just imagine finally having the courage to make a clean breast of, well, your secret sissy breasts and seeing her face light up with excitement as she eagerly starts telling you all about her dreams of making you her cuckold or having threesomes or taking full ownership over you… I know picturing this is making you slutty girls drool already.
You may be excused to go and pat your clits dry quickly and put your heels back on the ground for a second here. Let’s not get overly excited just yet.
Now that you’ve decided firstly, that you do want to share your girly parts with the world, and secondly, that it is in fact very important for you, and that the benefits of it all weigh out the cons, you need to take the step. But the question is, how?
Well, first of all, the most important part of putting your high-heeled foot forward is that it’s less about what you say, and more about how you go about it. To open up the conversation first and foremost you have to keep in mind to focus on your side of the story without putting words in her mouth. This means you have to lead with questions regarding your needs, your desires, your story while definitely steering clear of what she isn’t doing or giving enough of. Because, if you fail to clarify that this is something deeply rooted only in your own desire to explore a new side of yourself, and not a consequence of her flaws or deficiencies, then chances are she will be left feeling like she isn’t enough.
All good things take time and as you probably know from experience, the bigger it is, the slower you should go. To do that, you have to take it step by step to ease the process. If all goes well and she is willing to explore the sparkly sissy world with you, then introduce the fantasies, desires, and even toys one by one, not all at once. Even though it would be so exciting to finally share your true inner girl with her and dive head-first into your drawers filled with bras and panties, it would be more beneficial not to rush into sharing every last bit of your girly self right away. It could leave her feeling overwhelmed and confused if she tries to take everything in, all at once.
But the bottom line is, neither you nor anyone else can control her initial reaction and the actions that will follow. Even if you’ve been as cautious as possible and calculated every step beforehand, her emotions and what she chooses to do with this information aren’t your responsibility after all. No matter how ‘’right’’ you’ve done everything.
The only thing that you have control over is the way you deliver the news and handle yourself, whatever the outcome might be. A proper lady can always keep herself together even during stressful times.
Now, this brings us to the question of whether to be or not to be. Not to rain on anyone’s parade, but we do have to think through the negative outcomes as well, just in case.
Meaning, if the worst happens and she decides that the newly revealed side of you is not something she can welcome that easily, would it then be better for you to be by yourself while being fully yourself, or to be with a person who doesn’t accept every inch of who you are.
Does telling her about your sissy side and possibly losing her in the process weigh out keeping all of it to yourself, living a lie, driving yourself crazy with anxious thoughts about her finding all of this out on accident?
Although everyone has dreams, hopes, and maybe their whole future planned out, sometimes the best thing might be the thing that never happened. What I mean by that is if sharing your sissy side results in your relationship coming crashing down then that might be the universe’s way of guiding you in the right direction. If a whole runs empty, it will be filled up again eventually, no matter what…
That way maybe you girls could end up rising above and finding yourself that Owner you’ve always dreamt about instead.
Talking about dreamy Owners, all of this could really lead you to find yourself a nice and established Suitor or a Mistress. We’ve discussed all about the emotional side of things and how much of an impact that would have on you as well as the people surrounding you. But, I certainly cannot forget about the basic needs of a well-kept girl like you. I mean dresses, lingerie, high heels, makeup, self-care products, and all that comes with a proper lady has got to cost something, understandably of course.
And in order to live the lavish life of a high-maintenance girl like you, in my opinion, seeking a sugar daddy would be a no-brainer. Plus, spoiling girls materialistically isn’t always the only pro of having a nice and established Suitor…
I know. It’s ok, sweetie. All of us have our own fears and worries when it comes to our deepest darkest secrets. Worries such as abandonment, the chance of it ruining your relationship, or everything you’ve known so far to be true being completely false. But to be totally honest with you, girls, the worst that could happen is that you will probably feel quite overwhelmed because, after all, this is a huge step to take. And, essentially, you are not scared of the outcome per se, but rather of how the undesired outcomes might make you feel. If, for example, your partner decides not to accept this side of you, the worst part would be the shame and sadness you might feel deep down inside. Shame that will pass the more you understand that there’s nothing to be ashamed of, sadness that will fade once you embrace the things that make you feel happy and fulfilled. Believe me, every scary outcome can be defeated with nothing more than self-love, self-respect and self-acceptance.
The truth is that there are no good or bad choices you can make, there are just choices, period. Those choices, no matter the aftermath, are just steps. Life goes on and you keep moving along, keep going forward. So there really is no point in labelling these decisions, it only puts you under unnecessary pressure. And however you feel after making such a crucial choice, you can always remind yourself: I have been through 100% of every tough situation that has ever happened to me, so what’s stopping me from overcoming the things I’m afraid of now?
Remember, you are sissy enough even if you decide not to come out to your partner. You are beautiful, courageous, and feminine enough even if the only person you can share it with is yourself.
Don’t be shy, sweeties, share your experience of coming out or your doubts and fears in the comments! Sissies should not only seek guidance from Head Mistress but help each other as well ❤️
